My GBF asked me a very serious question tonight.

He was completely shitfaced, and we were grinding about as intensely as a gay man and a woman can grind, per usual when he is quite drunk, and all of a sudden he backed up and asked permission to ask me a serious question: does my dancing with him limit my potential with other guys? 


I hadn’t really ever considered this before. I mean, it’s not like I was beating guys off with a stick even before I met him. On the one hand, dancing with someone I’m comfortable with like I’m comfortable with him highlights my dancing abilities much more than dancing by myself in a Circle of Death in which I always feel a bit awkward. I can’t see why it would really automatically engender any detrimental effects: one person once asked me to clarify what exactly what was going on between us, as our obvious incompatibility is sort of overshadowed by our odd couple sort of chemistry; but that was just one person. 

So I guess the answer is, “I hope not. …And it’s not really going to stop me if it does.” 

One of the unfortunate consequences of this drunken grinding and groping is that I always end up back in my room horny and ALONE. Lulz at my life.


About alaiyo0685

I'm a kind of quirky, pretty stubborn, way too opinionated, twenty-something, intellectual, introspective, queer, Black, female, in a polyamorous relationship, and this is where I try to figure out my life.

One thought on “My GBF asked me a very serious question tonight.

  1. I'm kind of in the same sitch with my SGF who is always by my side. She uses it to her advantage for when people ask if we're dating she can decide to say yes or no (which I'm fine with, haha). But I think it might be a little different if people don't know he's for sure gay. I think you made really valid points there about it highlighting your dancing abilities.

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