There’s only one thing I hate more than an offensive ad

And that’s when people try to explain why the offensive ad isn’t offensive, or worse, why people who are offended shouldn’t be. 

First off, if something offends someone, it offends them. You have no right to explain to me what should or should not offend me. And just because something isn’t offensive to you doesn’t mean it can’t be offensive to me or anyone else.

Secondly, okay, here is the ad:

Ya’ll know me. I have no problems with embracing female sexuality and letting her be sexually active and liberated and whatnot. I’m in The Vagina Monologues this upcoming weekend, and sex is, in fact, almost all I’ve been talking about recently. I’m evidently getting a bit of a reputation for it (not like I give a shit). I applaud all of that; it makes me really happy that we can see women as beings with their own sexual desires, rather than just as the playthings of men in advertising. Yay this campaign for doing that.

But that’s where my applause ends. Drastically and unceremoniously.

1. “We’re way too quick to cry slut-shaming, racism, sexism, fattism, etc., in advertising, even when there are clearly the best of intentions at play.” Not to be a conspiracy theorist, but that’s exactly what they want us to think! If activists and non-dominant populations don’t stand up when they’re being shamed, belittled, ridiculed, othered, marginalized, made fun of, dehumanized, etc., then who will? If these things aren’t rallied against, advertising companies will never learn, and we will let shaming, belittling, ridiculing, other-ing, marginalizing, making fun of, and dehumanizing such populations be a normal part of daily life in our society. By being silent, we’d be providing tacit approval.

2. I also just think that implying that that woman’s vagina is a place to which people can check in is incredibly objectifying. You check into fast food places, not into women unless you’re viewing that woman solely as a sex object.

3. And even if they’re not directly suggesting that a high-ish number of sexual partners increases ones chance of contracting HIV/AIDS, it definitely plays into that stereotype. The company should be aware of those implications.

(These comments were originally posted in regard to this Thought Catalog article that makes me sad because I like them a lot.)

About alaiyo0685

I'm a kind of quirky, pretty stubborn, way too opinionated, twenty-something, intellectual, introspective, queer, Black, female, in a polyamorous relationship, and this is where I try to figure out my life.

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