My social networks discover and re-discover various tests from time to time, and I find the ensuing frenzy around identity that these tests produce to be quite entertaining.
I don’t put a whole lot of faith into Myers-Briggs, because I’ve noticed that my results change slightly basically every time I take it. This variation is around the central theme that I’m ENFJ, or “The Teacher,” but sometimes I’m in a more me-myself-and-I mood and I get INFJ, or last week I took it and got ESFJ, but the S was 1%. Like, what does that even mean? Why are you so fickle, test?
One of the tests that is incredibly stable for me, though, no matter how many times I re-take it, is my Love Language Profile. I. REALLY. like. being. touched. The only thing I like even close to how much I like being touched is people spending real quality time with me.
Le official wording from the site:
A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love to you.
In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether itʼs spending uninterrupted time talking with someone else or doing activities
together, you deepen your connection with others through sharing time.
I feel like all my weaknesses have been exposed. But I’m okay with that.
I really want to take the MMPI, but I will have to be feeling some kind of way to take a 500-question test out of curiosity. I am not feeling that way today.