Jealousy is a feeling, not an identity. You may feel jealous, but that doesn’t make you a jealous person. It’s an important distinction. If you say “I am a jealous person,” you may find it hard to think about letting go of jealousy; it feels like letting go of something that makes you who you are. On the other hand, if you say “I am a person who sometimes feels jealous,” that gives space to your other emotions. “I am a person who sometimes feels jealous, and sometimes feels happy, and sometimes feels sad, excited, afraid, angry or confused.” Such a statement reinforces to yourself that jealousy is not who you are.

More than Two, Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert 

(via Realistic Optimist)

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