I have always worried that I am not strong. Strong people don’t find themselves in the vulnerable situations I have found myself in. Strong people don’t make the mistakes I make. This is some nonsense I cooked up over the years, notions I would disabuse anyone else of but somehow still carry. So I worry that I’m not strong, and then become very invested in appearing macho, invulnerable, unbreakable, stone cold, a fortress, self-sustaining. I worry that I need to keep up this appearance for the people that matter most. Nonsense.
–Roxane Gay, Not Yet Healed | Roxane Gay is Spelled with One “N“