Day 17: Apologies #30Layers30Days

What do you need to stop apologizing for?
Your personality?
Your perspective?
Your needs?
Your boundaries?
Your dreams?
The person you love?

I’m combing through my gchats to see some recent times I’ve apologized for things that don’t need apologies.


“Sorry [for not responding sooner,] I was in a meeting.”

“I’m sorry to make you come out of your way to get me.”

“I’m sorry for being full of heavy shit this morning.”

…I think I apologize when I feel like I’ve caused turbulence, even in the most barely noticeable of cases. Generally speaking, I like to bring positivity into the lives of the people I care about. Thus, I apologize for not being smooth sailing. I apologize for inconveniencing people, even when they don’t mind the inconvenience. I apologize for having other responsibilities to attend to, for not being available at this exact moment. I apologize for talking about stuff that has me feeling bad, because I don’t want to mess up other people’s days with my problems.

I feel like these are things that, if someone said them to be, I would tell them not to apologize because they have nothing to be sorry for. #timesIshouldtakemyownadvice


About alaiyo0685

I'm a kind of quirky, pretty stubborn, way too opinionated, twenty-something, intellectual, introspective, queer, Black, female, in a polyamorous relationship, and this is where I try to figure out my life.

One thought on “Day 17: Apologies #30Layers30Days

  1. I’m guilty of this too. “I apologize for not being smooth sailing.” But you know what? Life isn’t smooth sailing. So we shouldn’t have to apologize for it. Let’s work on not apologizing for it any longer.

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