Day 21: Rewards (Option 2) #30Layers30Days

What do you do when you are in need of attention or acknowledgement from someone outside of yourself?  Yes, we all know that we need to look within, but we’re human and sometimes we want attention.  Sometimes we get a little needy.  So what do you do?  

I ask? It’s an ability I’ve been developing over the past couple of years — reaching out when what I need is other people. I say hi. I vent. I set up Skype calls or phone calls. I ask, “Can I come over?”

It used to be hard for me to say I need things from other people. I hated the idea of being “needy” or “clingy.” But pretending I didn’t have needs didn’t help me meet them. I had to accept that one of the things I need most regularly is, in fact, time with and attention from the people I love and care about. I need my people the way some people need alone time, and knowing that makes me feel way less self-conscious about consistently being the person to reach out in a lot of my relationships.


About alaiyo0685

I'm a kind of quirky, pretty stubborn, way too opinionated, twenty-something, intellectual, introspective, queer, Black, female, in a polyamorous relationship, and this is where I try to figure out my life.

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