Monthly Archives: December 2014


Goals for 2015

  • Less being sorry
  • More being naked
  • More accepting of myself
  • Less accepting of bullshit
  • Less surviving
  • More living

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Breathe. You’re going to be okay. Breathe & remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable & anxious & scared, & you’ve survived. Breathe & know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful & debilitating, but you can sit with them & eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment & laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again & again. This will pass. I promise it will pass.

–Daniell Koepke

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Polyamory is not a “normal” way to do relationships. It benefits us as poly people, I think, to acknowledge that, and to be conscious of the fact that poly can be healthy and positive even when we let go of the trappings and structures of monogamy. We don’t need to be afraid that letting go of those last remnants of monogamy will plunge us into anarchy and despair. Our partners still want to take care of us, even when our relationships don’t follow the social script.

–Franlkin Veaux, “#WLAMF no. 32 Relationship Negativity” | More than Two Book Blog

Our brains are buggy. They lie to us. Our feelings lie to us. Even our gut responses to straightforward statements or questions can lie to us. A big part of good communication consists of learning to identify the information gaps in what we hear, understanding how we’re filling them in ourselves, recognizing that we’re going to get it wrong, and asking the speaker to fill in the additional information.

–Eve Rickert, “#WLAMF no. 31: There is always missing information” | More than Two Book Blog

Not Everything Needs A Silver Lining

Thought Catalog from 2 weeks ago is just full of things I need to hear.

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It’s okay to tell your truth even if your truth is messy and bitter and frustrated and angry and mean and petty and negative. The truth is not always tied up neatly with a bow. There’s not always a silver lining. There’s not always some lesson learned to your pain. Sometimes things are just not okay for no reason. Sometimes it feels senseless and unfair and uncharacteristically chaotic. Sometimes there is no gratitude, no five-point list of what you’re thankful for, because sometimes life sweeps in like a wildfire and starts burning down what you’ve built.

It’s okay if you need to state the messiest of your truth and stand right in the muck of it. It’s okay if you let your nasty truth hang in the air without an apology, without a condition, without searching for a reason or a lesson or a way out of the nasty…

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How To Tell The Truth About Your Life

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The thing about life is that whatever you conceal is what owns you. It becomes the only thing about who you are, because it is the only thing that you will not let out into the world. When you say your life is great when it’s not great, when you’re hurting, when you’re on the downswing, you subtly give yourself permission to lie about who you are, to allow what other people think of your life to mean more to you than what you think about your life. There’s only one reason people lie about the state of their life: for the benefit of others.

When they say that the truth will set you free, what they mean is that you will be free from the burdening weight of having to conceal who you are. The truth will set you free because you don’t realize that whatever…

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It’s a good sign that D’Angelo does not see himself as the black Messiah. But to quote Jay Z, this is black superhero music. And in a multitude of ways. From having the album channel the pantheon of black artists before him to the black fists in the cover artwork to the album title to the political nature of some of the songs, to simply new D’Angelo, it’s what people need right now. Even if D’Angelo’s not a hero, the act of releasing Black Messiah when he did feels heroic. Because it’s giving his culture a sorely needed boost.

It’s rare that the public needs a record more than the artist does. One may think D’Angelo’s legacy was in dire need of a jolt, but no more so than the rest of us. It’s almost as if D’Angelo looked around at society and felt like it was time.

–Rembert Browne, “They Shall Be Released: D’Angelo’s ‘Black Messiah,’ ‘Selma,’ and ‘Exodus: Gods and Kings’”

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You work so hard, just to end up at home crying yourself to sleep; remember you’re trying, you are moving mountains that have plagued you since you were young, and you’re trying so hard.

Keep fighting, fight until you have won. Fight until you have found your way home, until the sun comes back and your heart learns to love the mornings again.

–T.B. LaBerge // Go Now

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