I must listen to truths and values at the heart of my own identity, not the standards by which I must live—but the standards by which I cannot help but live if I am living my own life…the quest for “wholeness” is that we must embrace what we dislike or find shameful about ourselves as well as what we are confident and proud of.
What a long time it can take to become the person one has always been! How often in the process we mask ourselves in faces that are not our own. How much dissolving and shaking of ego we must endure before we discover our deep identity — the true self within every human being that is the seed of [authenticity]…does not come from a voice “out there” calling me to become something I am not. It comes from a voice “in here” calling me to be the person I was born to be.
—Parker Palmer, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation