Forget about likability. I think that what our society teaches young girls—and I think that it’s something that’s quite difficult for even older women, self-confessed feminists, to shrug off—is this idea that likeability is an essential part of the space you occupy in the world. That you’re supposed to twist yourself into shapes to make yourself likeable. That you’re supposed to kind of hold back sometimes, pull back. Don’t quite say, don’t be too pushy…because you have to be likeable. And I say that is bullshit.