For each person, the “right” way to do poly is to talk about your needs, fears and insecurities; to talk about the ways your partner can support you; and to honor your commitments — without being controlling or placing rules on other people to protect you from your own emotional triggers. Above all else, trust that you don’t have to control your partner, because your partner, given the freedom to do anything, will want to cherish and support you. And always, always move in the direction of greatest courage, toward the best possible version of yourself.
-Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert, More than Two
Re-reading More than Two, this time with JJ, as we try to figure out a way to be healthy and okay into the future without sacrifice or hurt or settling on either side. Cross your fingers for us.