Have I ever felt romantic love for more than one person at the same time?

No. I have only ever felt romantic love for JJ. I have felt platonic love for multiple people simultaneously, and I have felt romantic love for one person and platonic love for multiple people simultaneously. I have felt romantic love for someone and sexual attraction to/sexual attraction for someone else at the same time. I have felt romantic love and a spark with someone that could be a romantic interest at the same time. It can be hard for me to know whether my interest in getting to know a person is romantic or platonic at first. ‘This person is interesting and I enjoy spending time with them and I would like to get to know them better’ doesn’t fall clearly into one camp or the other for me, and feeling physical attraction/sexual desire doesn’t really help either, because I have learned that I can have a regular sexually fulfilling relationship with someone I care about and still not feel romantically enamored with them. I feel as though I have felt sustained romantic attraction very infrequently in life; I’m not sure to what degree this is an inherent aspect of who I am as a human and to what degree it is learned in reaction to the fact that it has almost never been reciprocated when I feel it.

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About alaiyo0685

I'm a kind of quirky, pretty stubborn, way too opinionated, twenty-something, intellectual, introspective, queer, Black, female, in a polyamorous relationship, and this is where I try to figure out my life.

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