This one is easy for me. All of the attempts at having multiple partners I have made since dating JJ came from a place of dissatisfaction or wanting more than was currently available to me in terms of companionship and/or sexual expression. I would not consider having dalliances on the side if I were getting everything I need from our romantic relationship. I wonder if I might still get drunk at a party I’m at without my partner and feel like making out with someone. I wonder even more if, if my partner went to parties with me, would I feel the desire for those activities with someone else — so many times now I go out and come home and want to fuck the shit out of JJ, but he is asleep and I am left frustrated.
However, my desire for friends and the companionship and other intimacy I get from those relationships does not wax or wane with the existence of a romantic partnership in my life; the partnership comes first, though, in most instances. My friendships add incredible value to my life, but my partnership is the relationship around which my life is structured.